A break-up
„Where is the chat?“ – I got this letter recently from a reader. Before I give you an (extreme) example, I’d like to explain a little. A chat is very context-based text, it may use some words that only 2 people can understand, not to mention more common idioms, Bahasa Gaul like Jakarta slang, bits of Javanese… which you should not learn at least at the beginning.
But don’t worry, our couple hasn’t break up. The example here is a reconstruction. About another, but still a real break-up. Although it is also half English / half bahasa, it is very different from the chat our couple experienced yesterday (the following is a love triangle), so please try to read it exactly as it goes: read it, keeping long pauses after each reply, especially at the end. And I mean: lo-ong. The pauses which are full of heartache and maybe swallowed tears. It is not ridiculous an all. Feel it (or change to another channel). Disclaimer: you may need to use this.
The Girl: Apakah teman aku cerita padamu tentang mantan pacar ku?
The Boy: No. You have an ex?
The Girl: Mantan pacar ku meminta aku untuk kembali sama dia…
The Boy: Mmm.. and you like this idea?
The Girl: Gak tau
The Boy: Why? Bcos u still like her?
The Girl: Mmm
The Boy: Or bcos u are already thinking about me? 😉
The Girl: Bukan keduanya haha
The Boy: But if u are not sure, it means you still like him
The Girl: Sebenarnya aku gak suka sama dia
The Girl: Aku bingung, dia selalu bilang kalau dia sayang sama aku tapi dia juga mendekati gadis lain
The Girl: Dan besok dia tiba di Jakarta….
The Boy: Oh.. I won’t come to Jakarta if I’ll be someone .. 3rd
The Girl: Haha
The Boy: Ofc I cannot persuade u
The Boy: Tp aku sedih sekarang
The Girl: Mmm
The Girl: Apakah aku menerima mantan ku lagi?
The Boy: It means we will never meet
The Boy: Maaf
The Girl: Kalau dia mau berubah,aku mau kembali dengan dia
The Girl: Aaahhhhhhhh kenapa aku punya ex seperti dia ya,bodohnya aku 😛
The Boy: No, you are not stupid
The Girl: Aku cuma kasihan sama dia, waktu itu dia bilang sayang sama aku, makanya aku mau pacaran sama dia
The Boy: So you are already sure, you won’t wait for me, will you?
The Girl: Kita gak pernah tahu apa yang akan terjadi di depan
The Boy: I won’t contact with you if you are so unsure yourself
The Girl: Aaahhhh
The Boy: But I will miss you
The Girl: Mmm.. kamu harus tidur sekarang, ini sudah larut
The Boy: But thanks for telling me this, at the end
The Boy: Bye, XXX…
The Girl: Iya
The Girl: Tapi kita masih berteman, kan?
The Boy: Yes, but I can’t speak with you again
The Boy: Krn aku sedih
The Girl: Aaahhhh
The Girl: Ayolah 😉
The Girl: Benarkah kamu sedih?
The Boy: Iya…. krn kamu gak ingin melihat aku lagi
The Boy: Bye, I wish you the best
The Girl: hey..!
The Girl: Besok kita masih bisa ngobrol, kan?
The Boy: Mmm knp?
The Girl: Ya, aku mau ngobrol aja sama km
The Boy: Iya aku juga
The Boy: But it hurts
The Girl: Kita harus tetap berteman
The Boy: Iya, but I can chat again only if it stops aching.
(No more replies)
“Soulmate at fingertips”
* See the translation to English below ↓
Ada ungkapan “Jodoh tidak akan kemana”. Kalau memang tidak akan kemana, kenapa aku belum menemukan jodoh hingga sekarang? -___-* Apa karena aku nya yang tidak pergi kemana mana hingga calon jodohku pun tidak menemukan aku? Banyak pertanyaan tapi aku tidak pernah terlalu mempertanyakan kepada Tuhan kenapa sang Jodoh Dimana itu belum juga menemukan diri ku. Seorang gadis disalah satu negara di South East Asia, dimana umur 28 tahun belum menemukan jodoh itu seperti sebuah kutukan di negeri ini. Tidak heran kalau negeri ini memiliki populasi penduduk sebanyak 250 Juta orang. Karena rata rata pernikahan ada di umur 21-27 tahun. Bagaimana tidak, setiap pertemuan keluarga pertanyaan yang sering dilontarkan adalah “Kapan Menikah?”, “Kapan punya momongan?” and another annoying questions. Tidak tahukah hai kalian wahai sodara ku bahwa Negara ini sudah terlalu banyak penduduk, kenapa kalian hanya memikirkan pernikahan dan reproduksi? -___-*
Aku tidak pernah memikirkan bagaimana cara harus mendapatkan jodoh, karena menurut aku itu membuang waktu,karena aku yakin Tuhan sudah mengatur semua jalan hidup aku. Hingga pada suatu hari aku menonton sebuah acara talkshow dengan judul “jodoh di ujung jari” cukup menggelitik untuk di ikuti. Perbincangan ini menceritakan beberapa pasangan yang menikah dikarenakan pertemuan di dunia maya. How can two people get married just after meeting each other in cyberspace? I still cant believe it till now. How come? Pada era yang lalu, pasangan bertemu di sekolah, tempat kerja, atau lewat teman dan keluarga. Tapi itu kini, cara-cara itu terasa “kuno”. Beberapa penelitian juga meng-iyakan bahwa sekarang Online bisa menjadi salah satu cara untuk mendapatkan pasangan.
Teman terdekat saya bilang kenapa kamu tidak mencobanya di dunia maya? Lalu dia memberikan sebuah alamat situs jejaring pencarian jodoh. Awalnya ragu tapi tidak ada salahnya untuk mencoba. Tapi awal untuk mengikuti situs ini adalah murni untuk menjalin pertemanan di samping untuk memperlancar bahasa inggris jika saja ketemu Bule :p Aku adalah gadis dengan tipikal menyukai sesuatu yang nyata. Hingga pada akhirnya aku bertemu dengan seseorang dari daerah dingin skandinavia sana dari sebuah situs tersebut. Terkadang muncul pertanyaan ”apakah ini jalan Tuhan dalam pencarian jodohku?”. Sampai sekarang aku masih belum mengenal dia. Tapi siapa tahu?
Jodoh serasa ringan diucap, tapi rumit dalam realita. Ketika tuhan menciptakan segala bentuk dalam diri ini tidak ada salahnya sekarang jari ini mempunyai tugas extra untuk membantu tuannya mendapatkan pasangannya. Semoga! Dan semoga itu kamu 🙂
* The original ↑
Soulmate at fingertips
There is a saying, „Soulmate won’t be anywhere“. If it is really so, then why haven’t I met already that someone until now? Is it because I haven’t gone to any place where I could have met the right candidate and so my mate hasn’t also met me? Too many questions – yet I have never addressed God too much about why hasn’t That Soulmate also met myself so far. A girl from South East Asia, a place where 28 years without meeting the one is taken as a curse for the country. No wonder then, this country has population is as much as 250 million people. Because the average age for the marriage is 21-27 years. How come, at every family meeting the questions that can be heard the most often are „When do you get married?“, „When will you have a baby?“ and other annoying questions. Oh, doesn’t they know that the Country has already too many inhabitants, and why do they always think about marriage and reproduction?
I have never thought about the way how to meet a partner, in my opinion it’s a waste of time, as I am sure that God has already arranged all the ways of my life. Until one day when I saw a talkshow with a title „Jodoh di ujung hari“ (Soulmate at fingertips), tickling enough to watch the show. The debate spoke about couples who have married after their meeting in cyberspace. How can two people get married just after meeting each other in cyberspace? I still can’t believe it till now. How come? In old times, couples met at school, at work, or through their family friends. But nowadays, these ways seem to be old-fashioned. There are researches that say supportingly, meeting Online could be now one of the ways to make a couple.
My best friend asked me once, why won’t I try the cyberspace as well? So she gave me an address for a site for searching me a partner. I doubted at the beginning, but it couldn’t be wrong to try it… But at the beginning, joining the site was purely for friendship and in addition for smoothing the English if meeting someone Bule (foreigner) :p I was a typical girl who liked to have something real. Until finally I met someone from cold Scandinavian regions through the site. Sometimes, a question has crossed my mind: ”is this the God’s way for me?”. Until now I still do not know him. But who knows?
It is easy to speak about a partner, but hard to make it real. When God has created all forms after himself there can’t be any harm if a finger gets his extra power to meet a soulmate. Hopefully! And hopefully it is you 🙂
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